Mane issues

I am convinced that my hair has a mind of its own, and this has been a source of irritation and frustration for awhile now. It flips at odd places and is -- get this -- wavy. My gosh, what ever happened to my super-straight Asian hair?!

I had my hair layered two months ago, and they are now growing out at neither-here-nor-there lengths. I am at a loss as to how to style it. It is dry and brittle and often refuses to be tempered, no matter how much hair oil, gel or balm I put into it. I have even switched to separating shampoo and conditioner, instead of using the 2in1 stuff that's supposedly bad for your hair. But all to no avail. Aick!

But hey, at least my hair is not as messed up as these models' ... ;)